Stop Invalidating Bisexuality
April 10, 2017
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Have you ever been attracted to the same sex and wondered whether you were gay, but then suddenly you realized that you were also attracted to the opposite sex? Your mind probably went into a state of confusion and you fell into a frenzy of questions, but don’t fret it’s totally normal to have these thoughts. People are beautiful and at times we may find ourselves admiring both sexes, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are attracted to them.
The prefix “bi” means having two, in terms of sexuality it is used to identify people who have a liking and physical attraction to both sexes.
One of the biggest problems that bisexual people face is the judgment from both gay and straight communities. They are either considered “greedy” because they can’t “make up their mind” about which gender they like best, or they are told they are being overly hormonal.
To society, it is definitely okay for a woman to engage in sexual activity with both sexes because it’s “hot” and a “phase” girls go through, but when a male identifies as bisexual he is automatically branded as being gay and that him saying he’s bisexual is just an excuse because he isn’t ready to come out of the closet as gay yet. Part of the reason that people say bisexuality is just a gateway to only liking the same sex is because they see them dating the same sex for a while and after some time they are still dating the same gender, so people assume they are batting for just one team. According to “Psychology Today,” many scientists prefer a definition that is based exclusively on sexual attraction because behavior and identity are more fluid. For this reason people find it hard to believe that individuals are bisexual because they haven’t engaged in any sexual activity with the same sex.
Adults usually don’t believe that bisexuality is valid. They think that experimenting is normal and that eventually one must pick a side. To that I say that if you identify as bisexual don’t be afraid to acknowledge that, nobody can stop you from being your true self.
If you are having trouble understanding bisexuality, Fritz Klein has a book called “The Bisexual Option,” it focuses on identifying the different aspects of bisexuality and it gives a sense of comfort to those who are questioning whether or not they are bisexual.
After asking Junior Valerie Cruz on whether she thinks validating bisexuality is important she replied “Yes I do, because people should be able to feel comfortable being bisexual they shouldn’t have to worry if other people will approve of them.”
My biggest concern is that bisexuals shouldn’t be told what they do and don’t like, their partners should be understanding and accept them for who they are. The stereotypes and discrimination need to come to a halt. The bisexual community is not small there are teenagers and adults who do not reveal their bisexuality in fears that others will criticize them, this is a call to action, learn to accept people for who they are and start validating bisexuality.