“Fifty Shades of Grey” is a terrible movie and book. It gives an inaccurate message to readers and viewers, especially younger ones. Of course the R rating for the movie makes it harder for people under 17 to see it, but when there’s a will, there’s a way.
Whether its by sneaking into a movie theater or reading the book, teens know the story about Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. Even though it is seen as romance, it is not.
It glorifies emotional manipulation, coercion, and sexual abuse. Even though the movie is toned way down compared to the book, it still glorifies those three things.
The main character, Christian Grey manipulates her into many situations in the book and movie. He reels her in by trying to push her away.
He makes her think he is upset, making her feel sad, confused, wondering what she did wrong. Then suddenly he comes back, all friendly, making her feel wanted and special. This is a common tactic used by abusers, according to cassiopaea.com.
In addition, he stalks her and even traces her phone to find her location! In a movie scene, Christian takes her to his hotel room and changes her clothes while she is unconscious from drinking.
This is not romantic! A gentleman would’ve helped take her back to her own bed and left her clothed.
In the book, Anastasia is forced to do sexual activities she is not comfortable with and asks him to stop but he ignores her request and forces himself upon her. He even gets her drunk at some point so she’ll do everything he says, with a contract!
The only way you can give and get consent is being completely sober and conscious. The whole book and movie is basically about a girl who is in love with a man who likes to physically abuse her.
The only reason she stays in the relationship is because she loves him. This is how many women and men end up being in abusive relationships, because they think its okay to be hurt emotionally and physically by their loved one.
Many people like Anastasia believe they can fix their partners’ violent tendencies, but this cannot happen by letting them hurt you over and over. Love is treating your partner with respect, care, and making them count as a person always.
No one needs a Christian Grey in his or her life. “Fifty shades of Grey” is not a romance book or movie.