Age Really Does Matter in Teen Relationships
October 21, 2016
Age differences do matter in a relationship, especially in high school. For example, a 14-year-old student dating someone that is the same age isn’t criticized or even talked about much. Because the two people in the relationship are the same age, it is considered normal in today’s society. On the other hand, a 14-year-old student dating someone who is 21 is harshly criticized because of one person being over the age of 18.
The wider the age gap, the more unacceptable the relationship is considered. Teens in high school need to avoid getting into a relationship with someone who is over 18.
When you are a minor, you are not mature enough to have an intimate relationship with someone who is already an adult. In some relationships, statutory rape comes into play because of the couples’ decision to have sex, even though it’s consensual. To avoid getting in trouble with the law or even your parents, don’t date someone over the age of 18 while still in high school.
After you are 18, age shouldn’t matter as much because you are an adult, free to make your own decisions in life. Think about it. A lot of adult couples today are more than two to four years apart and no one comments on that. Your life essentially becomes less magnified, as it should be. Nobody should feel the need to question your relationship choices when you are an adult.
Opinions about other people’s relationships and age begin to fade as you become an adult because no one cares about your personal life. Your private life as an adult, in regards to relationships, should stay exclusive to you.
ameer • Jan 20, 2022 at 8:13 AM
when i was 18 i was dating a girl which was 14 years old now i turned 19 and she is turning 15 should we breakup?
A_Random_Lover • Nov 23, 2021 at 7:40 AM
I’m a junior (turned 17 a month ago) and he turns 16 in 6 days. I thought it was a bit of a gap but it seems like it’s not too bad. I was born in 04 and he 05.
Hailey • Oct 16, 2021 at 9:24 AM
i found this from googling if my relationship was okay, but uh im 14 first year of hs and im dating a 20 year old (im turning 15 in a little bit) but nobody knows of our relationship is that okay??
M • Nov 10, 2021 at 3:43 AM
As a girl who also tried that, and now I’m older, a 20 year old guy should be with an older person, and if he isn’t it means something is wrong. It’s either he’s a creep, and no girls like him or he’s hiding something. Even if you don’t want to leave him, you should make ur relationship more public, and if he tries to do anything sexual with you it could send him to jail! Wait until youre 18❤️
Æ • Jul 24, 2021 at 2:25 AM
I am 15, I am truly in love with a 12 year old, They do like me back.
I am very confused about what to do in this situation.
Every time I think about them I struggle to breath.
I know they are a kid but I don’t plan to do anything physical.
I Love them more than anyone I have ever met.
Someone Please Help.
I Love Them ❤.
– Someone In Love
bri • Jun 9, 2021 at 5:51 PM
my bf is 15 and im 13 hes a sophmore and im in 8th grade im turning 14 he just turned 15 idk we are 1 year 9 months 6 days apart
Kaitlyn Sleeper • Jun 7, 2021 at 7:44 PM
My daughter is 11 almost 12 and is dating a 12 almost 13-year-old boy: which I don’t see a problem with because she is very mature and has told me that the relationship is serious but not physically serious. My daughter has a church friend who is almost 19 and he likes her. I told him as long as he doesn’t act on anything until she is 18 it’s ok.
Anon • Apr 17, 2021 at 4:25 AM
hi! i’m a 17 year old transguy who is in love with a 22 year old guy (who jus turned 22 a week ago.) we have been together for almost a year now. granted, i asked him out after crushing on him for a few months which he was oblivious to. we walked on thin ice after naive 16.5 me confessed, and he treats me better than anybody ever could. especially being a transguy and gay, it’s hard to find anyone to love. but he is all i want. HOWEVER, do i encourage other minors to ask adults out willy nilly? absolutely not. never ever. i jus got VERY lucky. bless his heart, but i wish i could’ve waited. but at the same time, i really don’t think i coulda pulled through 2020 without him. it jus sucks with all the (RIGHTFUL) judgement yknow. my boyfriend loves me beyond my age and my body. dude literally asks permission just to HUG me. im also 18 in two-ish months. bottom line: minors, don’t ask adults out willy nilly. and don’t accept flirtatious gestures from adults. i got lucky, but you almost 99% of the time won’t be. be careful yall.
tyjo • Mar 24, 2021 at 2:03 AM
hi, I’m 15(16 in 11 days) and I really like this guy, but he’s 18. I’ve read that it is okay to date a minor if you have an age gap of less than 5 years. the country we live in also has the age of consent as 16. regardless of the legalities, it simply does not seem like people would be okay with us being together. not that I care what other people think, but I know my age makes him uncomfortable too. it’s really just an age gap of 2 years and some months, but me being under 18 just makes me think maybe I shouldn’t be with him. as of now, we are just friends. I’m not even sure he’d date me but I really, really like him. I’ve had 3 guys my age ask me out in the past 1 month, I’ve rejected all of them because I like him so much. what do I do?
Uhm • Mar 21, 2021 at 6:32 PM
Ok so like I don’t *think* I wanna dye 5em
I’m 14 and a Sagittarius
They are 16 and a gemini lol
Not that astrology matter but so you know when we both get older
I don’t think I wanna date them but I wanna know if that would be terrible
In case I end up doing it
I don’t think I will but I’m like rotting not knowing
And even though I don’t like them I feel guilty because I haven’t gone through nearly as much as them and quite honestly am not that smart
So
Uh
Is that ok if we did date? I doubt we will just yeah
Satan I guess • Mar 19, 2021 at 8:46 PM
I’m 14, turning 15 in late August and I like someone who is about 9 months younger than me, they turn 14 in early June. Is that okay??
Maia Garrett • Mar 6, 2021 at 8:04 PM
I´m on this dating app & this boy who claims to be 17 started texting me on this dating app, the question that I have is that how do I know if he´s actually 17? Because I´m having this horrible thought that this boy is lying to me about his age.
nasheria • Feb 15, 2021 at 5:53 AM
well there’s this 17 year old boy tht i like nd he likes me too and im worried bout dating him bc im 15 nd he 17 nd i want to date him nd its juss that im worried bout him gettin into trouble
Miley • Feb 10, 2021 at 4:54 PM
I am dating a boy, he is amazing but for right now I kind of like one of my best friends more. I dont know what to do, I dont want to break his heart. I need help asap.
kara • Feb 8, 2021 at 10:58 AM
is it okay for me 12 almost 13 to be dating a 15-year-old boy because he just turned 15 today?
helper • Jan 18, 2021 at 9:53 PM
Hey all! I am 16 and single, but I feel like this may help some people. In most cases in the comment section, if you need to ask then it’s probably wrong. It doesn’t matter what the situation is if you are a minor (and especially if you are below the age of consent where you live) do not date anyone over the age of 18 if you’re younger than 17 or even 16. As for everyone else, I personally wouldn’t date anyone who is more than one year older or younger than I am. This ensures that you are both around the same maturity level.
Campbell • Jan 17, 2021 at 3:26 AM
I’m a 13 year old boy who likes an 11 year old girl who is very mature I’m gonna wait till we are at the same school and see what happens she is also one of my best mates sisters is that weird or no I wanna know?
Paul kinnunen • Jan 15, 2021 at 9:13 AM
most likely one of the kids who hates school will go trying to smoke cigarettes the question is will any smoke come out of their mouth
Midori • Dec 24, 2020 at 7:40 AM
Right now me and the guy are both the same age but next month on my birthday he will still be 13 when I turn 14. Is this wrong?
Odo michael • Dec 2, 2020 at 3:43 AM
Is love real? I can’t fall in love!
Lanie Tillman • Dec 1, 2020 at 12:37 AM
Umm hey I have a question I’m 13 and I really like this boy but he just tired 18 in March and I really don’t know what to do and I am really in love with him we are just dating we haven’t done anything but I’m wondering is that to big of a age gap
brooke • Nov 28, 2020 at 2:08 PM
okay so i’ve been friends with this girl for almost a year and a half now , and i have feelings for her but she’s 20 and i’m 15 fixing to be 16 . is that okay ?
Shaunna Holland • Nov 22, 2020 at 8:48 PM
I am almost 18, but I dont know if its alright to date someone who’s 26 because it doesn’t seem right but I do love him some advice would be wonderful
Donald • Nov 20, 2020 at 4:18 AM
Am 14 and turning 15 nxt yr,and Am in love with a girl who is turning 16 nxt yr is it okay to go on in a relationship?
abby • Nov 16, 2020 at 8:38 PM
so I’m 13 and my boyfriend is 14 turning 15 in January were a grade apart so I’m in middle school and he’s in high school, is OK for us to be dating but in a nonsexual relationship but its also kind of long-distance right now but is it ok like most people date people in the same grade as them and I’m not so is it like ok
Anonymous • Nov 13, 2020 at 10:39 AM
I’m 16 girl and have a crush who is 18, but my parents said no dating till I’m 18. It makes me really sad but I kinda get it. If you have the same problem maybe just kinda chill for a bit. No hate, but sometimes we need to be more mature and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s sucks being a teen and not being able to date but one day you’ll be happy you waited. Hope this helps someone. Peace.
Tyra • Nov 12, 2020 at 10:03 AM
Okay , idk whats wrong with me lol .Im 15 in the 10th grade . When i go to stores and stuff i like just randomly see 20+ men looking at me . I like it idk why but . Like i like all ages it dosnt matter to me i could secretly date a 20 year if i wanted but i couldnt bc my friends and stufff lol .So , i just wanted to say i have an attraction for 20+ year old men its crazy . Maybe bc i hvae daddy issues lol . My father died when i was 5 or 6 .
fuck • Nov 11, 2020 at 6:21 AM
age just number?
Anonymous • Nov 8, 2020 at 9:46 PM
I’m 16 and this 13 year old girl just asked me out and I don’t know what to do I feel like she’s to young but I’m not sure. She turns 14 soon and I just turned 16 last month but I just don’t know if this would be socially appropriate or not
Person • Nov 1, 2020 at 4:50 PM
So like i’m 15 and recently I was at a party. The subject of dating came up and my friends introduced me to a girl who is 13 but she’s turning 14 soon. I turned 15 like a month ago for reference. Is that bad?
I mean I want my dream lesbian romance, but not if she’s too young. I mean we aren’t dating yet, but I need to know before I even consider. We knew each other before in elementary school but we haven’t talked since. Idk i’m just nervous.. idk if i’m even into her.
dede • Oct 29, 2020 at 1:22 PM
im 15 and hes 20 i stand for ages i love it u should like what u like and be yourself but be safe about it to love is hard to find my peoples aprove and we love him he lookes younger and me and him went through abuse and depression so we can relate were so close the summry what i tryna say is beleive n yourself be happy cuz i am
dede • Oct 29, 2020 at 1:19 PM
i mean 20 year old srry auto put 0
dede • Oct 29, 2020 at 1:18 PM
i am 15 and i like a 0 year ld and were n love my grandma aproves it becauses hes very mature and people know about us we are hurting and very upset people love to think negative of us and im a col ass mf like fr talk we both connect and my grandma said dont gaf what people think do yall just be safe about it plus i get compliments that i look older then my age so noone will expect me and him n question but im very mature and im here to stand up for me and him relationship it doesnt matter what age love is hard to find i beleive n that i stand for it n will continue to age dosent matter to me and i belive u like what u like and love what u love i support u all that date older ages and younger ages
Charlotte • Oct 26, 2020 at 8:27 PM
So i just read what everyone said and here is what I have to say: Firstly, if you lied about your age to your partner or your crush, that is already a sign you aren’t ready to date, Honesty is a big part of a relationship and trust, after you lie to them it might be difficult for them to trust you. Secondly, about this whole age gap thing, if you are a young minor and you like someone or are seeing someone over the age of 18, in my opinion I think you should leave it, You won’t be able to fully enjoy your teen years if you are dating an adult. You would regret it if things didn’t work out and you basically threw away your teen years trying to be mature enough for this adult. Thirdly, for y’all who are minors and are liking or dating another minor. I’d say it’s okay because y’all are going through your teen years and whatever y’all go through together, whether it’s good or bad, y’all will have learned from it and will benefit you and your partners futures, whether it’s together or not . Lastly, I understand what a lot of y’all are going through, I’m currently loving a guy who is 1 year younger than me (and he loves me) and my parents aren’t happy about it at all. I’m just trying to figure out if we are good for each other. I wish y’all lots of luck in your lives and I apologize about how long this is. lol
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unknown • Oct 23, 2020 at 11:48 PM
im 13 turning 14 in january and my boyfriend just turned 16 in september , we know that we cannot have sex because of our age difference but we still like each other a lot and we have been together for 2 years now and we are very happy but idk if its okay that we are together because of the age. we dont really care about it but i still need to know if it is ok to be with him because i really cant imagine m life without him so can you please give me your opinion cause that would really help.
thank u
anonymous • Oct 21, 2020 at 5:44 PM
my bf and i broke up bc timing is bad im 16 and hes 18 will we get back together in 2 years
Alijah • Oct 21, 2020 at 4:48 PM
I’m 12 years old and I am looking for a girl so if anyone out there wants to date me I’m free and here’s my email [email protected]
Ashley nicole • Oct 20, 2020 at 6:23 PM
im 11 years old girl and im in love with an 16 year old boy i know this isn’t right because of my age.but i can’t help it i keep falling for him even tho he has a girlfriend now.there’s literally no way i cant move on. he’s always on my mind because i have a crush on him and i want to move on now but i cant…..i tried but it keeps getting worse and worse. idk how to stop it but i hope i will stop having a crush on him
hazel l kenyon • Oct 20, 2020 at 7:53 AM
my 16 and i really like this boy, but hes 18 and we are friends online and he is so nice, fun, kind, and hot. he wants to wait til i’m 8 because he don’t wanna get in trouble and i feel the same way, but what if we stop talking and shit then what do we just let it go or do we try to fix it and start to talk again. so i looked it up and you can date a boy that is 3 years older then you but you just cant have sex til your 18. so what do i do if he wont hear what i am trying to tell him should i just let him go or just stay friends with him.
Mimi • Oct 19, 2020 at 7:39 AM
I am a 12-year-old girl and I go out with a 15-year-old girl that lives in Alabama and I live in Florida is it okay that we both go out
kea • Oct 19, 2020 at 4:34 AM
i am a 14 year old dating a 17 year old guy .we really love each other and i don’t know what i’ll be without him.there is no sexual activities involved is that okay??
Lara • Oct 15, 2020 at 4:19 AM
I’ve 17, turning 18 in January. I have been pining over a 23 year old guy for a while now. We’re basically at the same point in life . He finished highschool and works at a fast food chain ( the same place I work) . I am currently finishing highschool online . Idk if he likes me back . And my parents wouldn’t approve of me dating someone over the age of 20. Any advice is welcome
shortgod21 • Oct 14, 2020 at 9:38 AM
im 14 dating an 11 year old we are both very mature but people say that its not good and i love her to death i would never hurt her but is a three year difference ok
Imy • Oct 13, 2020 at 2:28 AM
I’m 12 and I like an 15 year old I need help to know if that’s bad bec I can’t get him out of my head but Ik I won’t ever be with him and I don’t know what to do please help me
Queendeathythefurry • Oct 10, 2020 at 10:50 PM
Im 13 And im in love with a 17yr old, IM REALLY MATURE WITH HIM and Im about to be in high school next year. As you can see, I know Im mature cause I’m not a S**t head like the rest of the kids in school. And at least know plenty of common sense, I mean like come on. Im working ad a 3D artist and helping pay bills and my sis tax.( Thats what a good young sis dose btw). We know alot and we are really smart. We know A LOT of history and science, ( I might as well consider myself the silly crackhead?) we been together for a month or should i say 3 months. He used to be my ex but he wanted to come back. There might be a good chance im moving in with him, Also because my F**ing black parent are really strict and abusive. IM in south carolina and he is in minnesota (search it on google maps).We are both silly, and we have A LOT of similarities. Im happy the way we are together, just depression hits me from being in a toxic environment at home. But as long as he is ok and stabled im good a happy with him.
Btw he works for being a security guard at the mall and i work for being a 3D artist/ game developer AT A VERY YOUNG AGE AND I KNOW HOW TO PAY BILL AND HELP MY SIS( who is 20) PAY HER TAX DEBIT AND STUFF. I mean I know a lot of things i was supposed to learn but i learned it anyway.
No one • Oct 9, 2020 at 12:29 PM
I’m 16 and dating a 15 year old, he’s younger by a year, is that bad? Idk what teenage boys think
Alycia • Oct 8, 2020 at 3:50 AM
I want a 17 year old boy
Mj • Oct 7, 2020 at 10:33 PM
Hmmm im 18 and my boyfriend is 16 but i really like him ivve never been attached to someone like him and the way think is really similar is it bad ? To date him? I really like him but hes 16 but hes my boyfriend now im also afraid that people would think abd about me and him ?? i just want to be with him cause ive never felt this feelings before even we are in a long distance relationship?
wanthimsfbad • Oct 5, 2020 at 2:35 AM
ok so, im 13, hes 16. i met him thru tiktok . he lives in a different country. i lied to him saying im 15 but im really in love w him and ready for serious commitment. i might be travelling to his city in 2 weeks and might link w him. idk what to do? maybe he likes me back when we meet. ive been chasing him for over 6 months now, he knows i like him but kinda rejected me 4 months ago. havent done alot since but i have a feeling he might like me back. what shud i do? can’t tell him my real age cuz then he’d be mad i lied.
laura • Sep 28, 2020 at 11:19 PM
i am 14 years old and i fell in love with a 12 year old and i was wondering if thats ok because we been together for a few months now and i really love him. i just need some answer because were not ready to tell our family yet and of course i love him and i just dont want it to go down hill. we see each other now and then and we will contact each other through phone and its a lot to take in.
Tamara • Sep 27, 2020 at 11:31 AM
Hi so I’m going to turn 18 in a week. I’ve always been a tiny bit different from other girls my age. Ever since I was a child, I was never attracted to guys my own age, I always preferred older guys. Is it bad for me to like guys who are about 5-15 years older than me. But the problem is everyone thinks I’m a kid but I’m much more mature than I should be for my age. I really don’t know, as a result I avoid dating, because I feel guys around my age are immature.
Shubham • Sep 23, 2020 at 10:26 AM
i want girl friend I am 16 uears old.
Ashu • Sep 23, 2020 at 4:05 AM
I am 14 nd i am in love wid 17 your old guy..nd we r madly in love wid each other……but my family got to know about us…..Nd they r forcing me to leave him….even I know it’s my age of having fun…but I just can’t even think of leaving him….moreover we r in long distance relationship….but I do really love him…plzz I want suggestions….I am not able to think what should I do….if u can help me plzz…
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Yori • Sep 18, 2020 at 10:49 PM
I am 13 yrs old and someone is courting me for almost a year now through internet. He’s 21 and he kows i am the same age as him. I lied to him cuz i know he wouldn’t like me if im a minor. I love him too ofc that’s why i lied but i don’t really know anymore if our relationship is ok. Honestly i can’t reject him i cant either tell him the truth too. Can someone advice me if this relationship with him is ok, if not I’ll reject him though i love him so much (sorry if my english is bad)
mangos • May 27, 2022 at 11:45 AM
yeah this doesn’t sound right. you just turned into a teenager and should enjoy those years with someone closer to your age, meanwhile he’s an adult and should date someone closer to his age. cause stuff that happens in teenage and adult years are different and its so much better to have someone closer to your age to relate to, not trying to relate to a 21 year old. also lying about your age because he wouldn’t date a minor is not a good sign! if you have to lie about your age its not gonna last long! so yeah but i don’t have too much of a say in your personal life and i wish you good luck with whatever happens! have a great day!
Sahil • Sep 4, 2020 at 2:10 PM
I’m 22 I want a gf under 20 and cute because me also cute
Rj • Aug 24, 2020 at 7:07 PM
I am 20 years old and I have a love on a 24 yo girl. I still haven’t revealed my interest to her. And I don’t know how to cope with this. I was attracted to ber in the beginning because of her beauty. But with the time passed, I was used to love her qualities a much. I feel like she definitely suits to me. What should I do here. Please help me
Tammy • Aug 20, 2020 at 1:17 PM
I am a mother of a 26 year old daughter, who was swept away by an 18 year old when she was 14. I hated it, but as they aged, he asked her to marry him, they got married, and now have a 3 year old. She excelled lovely in life (college degree, awesome job and then decided to become an officer in the Air Force,), but she is miserable with her marriage. In the meantime he is 30 with no career,, no self esteem and co-dependant, I hurt for her because she wants a divorce but just told me she is depressed because she has decided to just stay to make him happy. If you are flipping 18 and want to date a 14 year old you severely lack self esteem and obviously have mental issues. I am so sickened by this. One of the most selfish thing you can do is prey on a young teenager and take away their teenage years. I now understand the situation better, if you want to date someone younger, in high school, it could only mean one thing, no one on a mature level wants you!
Paul Joshua • Aug 17, 2020 at 2:10 PM
I’ turned seventeen and dating someone who is seventeen too, is it wrong? Can o make it to marriage with her yet we of same age??
Anonymous • Jul 29, 2020 at 8:28 PM
I’m 17 and I like a 15 year old is that ok idk how everyone would feel if I dated someone that younger than me
Eve • Jul 28, 2020 at 9:13 PM
If u have been with a guy for 3 yrs and u just turned 18 and he’s 8 months younger than u is it ok to keep having a sexual relationship?
no name • Jul 28, 2020 at 5:44 PM
i am 18 teen in age gap relationship the guy is 30 do you thinking at ok yes or no how long it at relationship can some plz tell me….
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Khadija • Jul 5, 2020 at 3:55 PM
I’m 13 right now and I really like this 17 year old guy. I’m really mature for my age and I really connect with him. Is that age gap too big providing there’s nothing sexual involved?
Matthew • Jun 15, 2020 at 12:51 PM
Since I was 11 I have only liked girls older than me. I don’t know why only older girls and not my age. In middle school every girl was in high school. I feel embarrassed.. I guess if you like people a different age is okay. Dates are hard cuz I never know as much. She chats her friend and not much with me. I might expect too much of a 3 years older girl.
Jody • Jun 12, 2020 at 7:32 PM
It really irks me that someone in this comments section would even bring up the topic of pedophilia. The article above is about whether or not teenagers in middle school or high school should date someone older. It has nothing to do with dirty old men luring 6- or 7-year-old girls into their car with candy. Moreover, with all the deadbeat teenage fathers younger than 18 years old ruining the lives of young girls throughout our nation, what gives anyone the right even to judge adult/adolescent couples? It’s a darn good thing that the state of California decided to keep underage marriage legal. If a 14-year-old girl is in a serious relationship with a 21-year-old man and the parents are okay with it, then sometimes marriage is the only way to keep the criminal justice system rightfully out of the picture. I respect your opinion, Samantha Espinoza, but, at the end of the day, the Puritanical Establishment is not always right about everything.
Mature Woman • Jun 8, 2020 at 9:52 PM
I am flabbergasted as to how many 20+ are with anyone under 18. I am 45 and my husband is 48. No biggie there, but I would not have been allowed to date him when I was 16 and he was 19. Even though back in 1966 my mom and dad got married she was 15 and he was 20. Times were different then. I am a parent of two girls and I just wouldn’t allow it. I can’t imagine these parents allowing this. But I also have to realize some could have just posted crap to post crap, may not be true.. but on the off chance it is.. if you have to hide your relationship, then you know it’s not right. If you can’t be honest with your family about his or her age then your wrong. I can’t see why a 23/25 year old would like to date a 14/15 year old. They can’t even hang out in the same social circles. If you are a religious kind of person then take a minute and ask your pastor, youth pastor or a church elder if you could talk to them. Ask them what they see or think about the age difference. Just be smart.
Block • Jun 1, 2020 at 7:38 PM
Is a sixteen year old boy and a 12 year old girl a respectable age difference for a relationship
Brook • Mar 24, 2020 at 7:55 PM
I’m fifteen and I’m in love with a forty nine year old. He turns forty nine in a couple days. He’s thirty three years older than me. It’s okay tho, cause he’s ewan mcgregor and has no idea I exist. Because once again, he is ewan mcgregor and I am fifteen. His girlfriend is romona flowers. But it is okay. Because he is ewan mcgregor. And he is also obi wan kenobi. And Danny torrance. And Roman sionis. And mark renton. And ewan mcgregor. Basically, screw the whole Age is a number thing, cuz he’s ewan mcgregor. Kk bye
Secret Hooman • Feb 14, 2020 at 1:20 PM
Okay so I’m 14, 15 in July. I’ve been talking to this boy for over a month now, but he turned 16 two weeks ago. Is 14 and 16 bad? There’s only a year and half in age, but I’m in Year 10 and he’s in Year 12.
Christine • Jan 22, 2020 at 10:39 AM
I’m 18, turning 19 in April and I’m online dating a 16 year old boy who’s turning 17 in October. We both really love each other and been dating for almost 3 months. We make each other really happy and his sister says that hes really happy when we text. Is the age diffrence okay? I’m not really sure and I havent told many about the relationship.
Alexzandra • Dec 30, 2019 at 2:08 AM
So I’m currently 16 at the time, I’ve had the biggest crush on best friend. We’ve known one another for about 3 years now, I’m turn 17 no longer than 4 months tops. But here’s the thing…He’s 18, we were thinking of having a relationship. Long thoughts about it, debated on it, and thoughts. We do think about something such as intimacy, and more. But mostly flirting, physical touching (lots, very lots), and being together. Almost everyone knows him, and knows me for being a junior him a senior. Would it be illegal if we were to be together, flirt, but intimate, but without sex being involved?
Abigail • Nov 17, 2019 at 5:18 PM
My best friend is 16 and in love with a guy she has been dating for 3 years now who just has turned 18 but his mom made him break up with her. Can they still date as without a sexual relationship? Or does she have to wait till she’s 18?
Treasure • Oct 28, 2019 at 6:18 AM
I’ll be 17 very soon, i’m seekin admission into a university and there’s this guy who i like so much(he’s 18) i think he likes me too cus he shows care,concern and gives me attention but my parents don’t want me to be in a relationship yet. What do i do?
Aileen • Oct 27, 2019 at 3:42 PM
Im 15 and am currently in an online relationship. He’s 18. I’m confused as to why he would want to date me and why online. We live in different countries and I decided to look for someone online as I’ve been struggling with a lot of things and I want someone to talk to. I was a little curious going into this but tbh it’s been really interesting. He’s from Canada so it’s legal for him to sleep with me if I was in Canada. But I’m from England, where it’s illegal. Tbh we’ve made no attempt for nudes or sexual images but we flirt a lot. I’m wasn’t sure going into but as I’ve gotten To know him and his interests we get on really well. I have no plans on making our relationship sexual in any way but I enjoy talking to someone who sees the world the way I do. I’m still gonna say don’t do it. It’s amazing but it’s very risky.
Conchita Rivers • Oct 26, 2019 at 8:22 AM
I’m in love and dating a 14 year old turning 15 in March of 2020 and I’m turning 17 the end of 2019 so we are only really 2 years apart… is that ok? And we are talking about breaking our relationship when I’m 18!so that we don’t have problems in the future about age difference and me being an adult.
Blaize • Sep 15, 2019 at 11:07 AM
I am 14 and im dating a 13 year old but he is also my best friends brother and my best friends doesnt want us to date and told me that i had to pick either her of her brother. I dont know what to do.
Zack T. Fazunila • Aug 31, 2019 at 3:13 AM
So i’m 14 years old and i got this one question:
I have a girl who is a same age as me,though we’re only minor,is it really appropriate to have a relationship at such a young age?
Excellency • Aug 8, 2019 at 10:25 AM
I am 19, a university lady.I want to be in love.I always feel lonely and I just wish I have my own guy.several guys had come to ask me out but I feel its wrong for me to date at that age and also being my first year at the university.but deeply inside my heart I want to love I always feel lonely
Emilin Gonzalez • May 25, 2019 at 8:52 AM
I justed turned 15. I’m friends with a 24 year old and he asked me if I could be his girlfriend. I told him you’re older than me like he is 9 years older than me. He is pretty good looking.
anonymousandrogymous • May 13, 2019 at 8:55 AM
Ok, i’ve read some of the comments and, it’s ok to date when you like 14 yrs old when you’re like, 13 or something.
But if you are 25+ and like minors (Below 18/17. idk which.) What the heck do you see in a not fully developed child? There is definitely something wrong there. See, it is called pedophilia. It means liking or having attractions towards a child romantically. Or sees kids as a romantic interest.
It is definitely wrong. People keep on encouraging others and say “Oh~ age is just a number. It doesn’t matter how old they are~” like wtf guys. It DOES matters.
If your reason is because you feel like you are mature enough to date someone so old, and like, feel like you are so in compatibility with someone, that’s just crap. You are only like in teen years, you haven’t fully develop in mind nor body. You probably haven’t have experience with a lot of people in life, which is why there is a big possibility that you feel that way because of your inexperience and when you experienced something new towards a person, you feel like they are so special. When in reality it is some common traits that a lot of people have. But you just haven’t have that knowledge towards people yet.
Honestly, I have a friend who is 16 years old. She has this big crush on someone who is 11 years older than her. When I asked her if she’s okay with the idea of dating someone that old (especially when she is still considered as a minor.) she answered that “Age is just a number.” That reaction shocked me. That cliche kind of answer feels like a petty excuse to love someone younger or waaay older than you. Just because you think it’s ok, doesn’t mean it is.
At the very least, you should wait until you’re like 18 years old. The age where you are fine with making your own decision and think more rationally than before. But for your information, the brain will fully develop when you are at the age of 25. but whatever thats so random.
This stuff is probably harsh for the lot of you, but that’s only because I didn’t try to be flowery with my words.
Meshak • Apr 5, 2019 at 1:36 PM
Am 14 yrs almost turning 15 and am in love with a 17 years girl is that perfect match.
anonymous • Apr 2, 2019 at 9:57 AM
i am 13 and my girlfriend is 14 is that okay?
Emma • Mar 22, 2019 at 12:35 AM
I am 16 turning 17 in 2 weeks. I like someone who is 25 he is fine with it but wants to wait till I’m 17. We had been friends for a while and I now have feelings for him but is it stupid to want a relationship with him should I just stay friends and just try to turn off the feelings and go for someone else.
You don't need to know • Mar 4, 2019 at 11:56 AM
Alright, bit of background here, 20yo male, raised Christian. This is speaking to all the people who commented on this, in my experience it is not so much the age difference as it is the maturity factor, to be 100% honest, if you aren’t looking for a life long partner, and you are just looking for a partner for the heck of it, or because you see everyone around you coupling up, you aren’t ready regardless of if you are 14 or 50. I know people that were MARRIED when they were 14 and 17 and they stayed together for LIFE, so it can happen, it just needs to be the right people, so wait, I truly believe there is a perfect match for everyone….. if they wait for the right person, but when you meet them the age difference will not matter. Do not let society impose it’s standards on you, obviously be cautious if someone several years older is approaching you, but if you know it is the right person, and more importantly 999/1000 times, whoever your father figure may be, approves of them, then go for it. Sorry for the long post, just remember that both this article AND my comment on it are both OPINIONS, take them with with a grain of salt and as my Mom would say, chew the meat, spit out the bones.
Eloise • Feb 26, 2019 at 2:31 PM
I’m 14 and in year 10 and I’m talking to a 16 year old in year 11 is this ok?
Yabets • Feb 11, 2019 at 11:24 AM
Is any matter that my girlfriend is five months older than me?
Anonymous • Dec 17, 2018 at 2:04 PM
I’m 14 and I really, really like this 17 year old girl who is going to be 18 next year. And she really, really likes me. But we don’t know what to do.
anoymus • Dec 4, 2018 at 10:51 AM
I’m 14 and I just started talking to this 16 year old. She likes me but doesn’t want to get serious because of people at school. What do I do?
Nayan • Nov 15, 2018 at 9:48 AM
I’m 13 and I’m dating a 19 year old. I’ll be 14 in January. I am mature enough to be with him. He’s been a great influence in my life and has made me happy for when I was depressed cause I do suffer from depression. I can tell I’m mature because everyone here at school is ******* disgusting and I wish i could snap their necks.
Neneh • Oct 11, 2018 at 4:36 PM
I am seventeen and I am in love with a fifteen years old boy is it bad??
Milan • Sep 22, 2018 at 1:15 PM
I’m 14 and in love with a 18-year-old boy. is that too old?
Habib • Jul 30, 2018 at 1:19 PM
I was in a relationship around 3yrs with a girl whom I don’t know her age that I hv never asked but as we are communicating with each other she always ask me my age and I told her but I don’t understand what really she want from my age. What shall do about it, I think I need advise from elders.